Monday, September 8, 2008

May your church year be amplified!

This appeared on the fall frontpage of the UUA's Pacific NW District:

If you are reading this on the Pacific Northwest District website, I think it is safe to assume that you are a church leader. And if you are a church leader, I’m willing to bet that you’re feeling a little overwhelmed with the beginning of the church year. Wish you could clone yourself? Wish you could amplify your efforts? That is my wish for you this year – May your church year be amplified! May you be a beacon rather than a bunker.

1. Pay attention to where your joy bubbles up. Follow that energy and do those acts that amplify love. What details of church work give you joy? What community dreams are like breaths of fresh air? Those are the ones to follow. Consider a “three strikes and out” rule for items that keep coming up in Board or committee meetings but never get off the ground – take this as a sign that this activity needs to be dropped, or at least put to pasture for a while.

2. Make this church year matter. The Church of the Palouse in Moscow, ID has church t-shirts that say “What we do matters” on the back. I wear that t-shirt all over the place. I wish more Unitarian Universalist congregations followed this philosophy not only for social justice outside our congregations’ walls, but also for acts within our congregations’ walls, such as worship. Worship should be the time to refuel our flames and get our marching orders. Don’t settle for a sometimes-working sound system or agree to be an untrained, unpracticed, apologizing celebrant. What we do matters. Don’t settle for “good enough.” What we do matters! When worship is created in a careful manner to elicit the high, holy “Yes!” then our spirit and intentions are amplified.

3. Be a beacon, not a bunker. I still harbor a fantasy that every congregation in our district will hold a Recommitment to Membership Ceremony and present each member with a chalice necklace or pin. And part of that recommitment will be a promise to wear that chalice out into the world and be ready to declare that you work for “what matters” in the name of Unitarian Universalism. That your good works are fueled by your faith. (If you are a potter and want in on this dream, please email me.) If it strikes fear in your heart to think about people asking about your chalice, you may want to practice with others from your congregation. The curriculum “Articulating Your UU Faith” is a fantastic tool. You can order it through the UUA Bookstore ( ) or borrow it from the District Library.

4. Abundance follows mission. Back in November the Unitarian Universalist Association gathered together a group of ministers who have a special spark, for a deep listening session. The hope was that we would learn what made them tick and be able to replicate it. Here’s the kicker – these twelve ministers definitely had something in common, but it wasn’t a skill-set. It was a bold theology and a drive to offer our saving faith to everyone they could reach. You can download the Listening to Experience sessions on-line. But what if your congregation is shaky on UU theology? Not to worry! Have we got resources for you! Tapestry of Faith is a series of faith development curriculum available to download. And be sure to send your leadership team to our fall Leadership Council on November 8 in Seattle – the learning topic is "Finding Balance at the Center of our Faith."

5. Welcome growth and change. I should warn you that if you start wearing your chalice… and if you pay close attention to the quality of worship… and if you deepen your collective faith formation and Unitarian Universalist identity… you will attract more Unitarian Universalists to your faith community. And they will want to stay. And things will start to change as they add their gifts and take on leadership. May I suggest the spiritual practice of letting go of the mantra, “We’ve always done it that way”? It’s okay to grieve the way things used to be. I actually suggest you do that. It’s necessary to name it and let it go in order to empty your arms which will then allow you to embrace the opportunities coming your way.

6. Let go. Pay attention to duties that make you clench your jaw and resent those around you. Do what you can to let those go. Sometimes this takes incredible honesty with ourselves and others. Love isn’t always polite and easy. Sometimes love takes an intervention. I used to be one of those church members on every committee. One year a wise elder noticed this and staged an intervention. I was given an (involuntary) volunteer sabbatical. I wasn’t allowed to volunteer for anything for a whole church year. Nothing. I couldn’t even make the coffee or fold a newsletter. Guess what? We all survived just fine. New leaders with fresh ideas stepped into the places I had been hogging. And I learned which duties I resented, but was afraid to disappoint people if I didn’t fulfill other people’s expectations. And I learned what brought me joy by what I really missed. If you have been a church leader for over 5 years and you are still doing everything instead of mentoring others, then I think that you and your community are missing out. Amplified leadership happens when you make sure you’re dispensable.

8. Trust. Let go of constantly questioning power and authority, particularly that of your minister and/or board. They are not out to get “their way.” They have been elected and called by your congregation to serve the greater good. If a task force has been asked to research and bring a recommendation to the congregation, please do not nit-pick at the congregational meeting. Let go. Respect their work, and trust the process. If it’s come to a vote and you feel the need to ask a lot of detailed questions (even though the committee/ board/ task force has kept the congregation apprised of their progress through newsletters articles and emails) please let go. There is a responsibility in democracy to stay informed and involved, not to wait until the last minute and subvert the decision by protesting and questioning the process. Rather, say, “thank you!!” And if you aren’t satisfied with this round, then you volunteer next time. Or not. Perhaps you can just let go. I hear from more would-be Unitarian Universalists who sadly report that they left due to our inability to deal productively with power and authority. This is the opposite of amplifying our spirit and intention.

9. Reach out. When was the last time you invited a neighboring religious leader counterpart out for coffee to swap ideas? It could be a Unitarian Universalist leader from a couple cities away. It could be a congregational leader from your community’s United Church of Christ or Jewish temple or Baptist church. For those of you lucky enough to be within reasonable driving or bus distance to other Unitarian Universalists, please-please-please take advantage of this a couple times a year – go visit, and see what they do differently and why. Plan to attend the PNWD Annual General Meeting in February, and UUA General Assembly in June. And you do know about the various list-serves for UU leaders, right?

10.Keep the Sabbath. As church leaders, we often come to Sunday worship and take care of church business while we’re there. I’ve even overheard church leaders talking about a board meeting during the prelude. And then quickly grab each other to continue the conversation as soon as closing circle or benediction was complete. What if we saved Sunday for Sabbath? A time out from the duties and “shoulds” of our fast-paced world? What if we kept the television off and didn’t boot up the computer? What if Sunday were saved for family dinners around the kitchen table and game night? Basically, what if Sunday (or any intentionally chosen day for that matter) were set aside to refuel our flame by following our joy? Can you imagine how rested and responsive we’d be as church leaders? That’s the kind of amplification of spirit and intent I’m talking about. Check out Wayne Muller’s book Sabbath for more ideas.

I wish you a very abundant church year.

In faith,


DRSWest said...

Amen, sister! Testify!

ms. kitty said...

Hi, Tandi! It's great you're blogging! Welcome to the blogosphere and I hope it's a terrific experience for you, as it has been for me.

Kari said...

Woo Hoo! Sing it loud!

Thanks for being here! Looking forward to tons more!

Barbara said...

I too want to sing AMEN! You have spoken the truth and offered hope...beautifully. Looking forward to reading and learning more from you, Tandi.

Anonymous said...

I just found this and will be sending it out to our board, maybe even bringing it to a leadership meeting tomorrow night. Wow! Just Wow!